Sleep Together Better This Valentines Day

Despite our best intentions for romantic nights we don’t always get the sleep we need when sharing a bed. What are the facts and how can you get better sleep on Valentines Day with your bed partner?

Tips for sleeping better together on Valentines Day

Pros and cons of sharing a bed

Previous studies suggested people get more quality undisturbed sleep alone regardless of preference for sharing. More recent research suggests other benefits of sharing such as feelings of safety and security as well as lower levels of stress hormones outweigh the disturbed sleep (source). Men tend to sleep as well alone or with a partner; women are more sensitive to their environments and sleep better alone.

Sleeping separately is more common than you might expect

About 24% of couples sleep in separate rooms (source)… and 60% would prefer to sleep separately (source). Reasons for not sleeping well together vary from different preferences for when to go to bed, sleep positions, noise level, and temperature, to issues such as snoring and arguing.

Tips for sleeping better together

How to get better sleep when sharing a bed

Other than the obvious practical solutions such as better or separate mattresses, you can improve your natural ability to sleep soundly together whatever your situation. If you’d love to be able to share a bed but it makes you anxious, or if one of you disturbs the other, try these tips for more romantic relaxing time together:

Practice relaxing together regularly to achieve deeper sleep

It sounds obvious but sometimes you have to practice or re-learn how to relax. In today’s society we move at a fast pace with constant stimulation. This has resulted in a reduction in our brainwave flexibility. During the day when we concentrate, we are in a beta brainwave state. When we relax we go into the slower alpha brainwave state. When we are deeply relaxed (almost asleep) we go into theta. If the brain cannot transition between these states easily, we lose our ability to be able to shift gears, slow down our brainwaves, and enter the delta brainwave state of sleep.

“By regularly spending time doing relaxing activities that slow the brainwaves, we can improve brainwave flexibility and achieve deeper sleep more easily”

With increased brainwave flexibility, we’re able to sleep more deeply, which makes us less likely to be woken up by our partner’s tossing and turning during the night.

Fitness for better sleep on Valentines Day

Create a state of bliss in your daily life

Schedule regular relaxation and time out to slow your mind down” says Elina “ not just before bed but during the day too – away from screens and notifications. Go for romantic walks, picnics or swims; get out into nature. Try a bath with candles and theta brainwave music. The more bliss you can create together on a regular basis, the better you’ll sleep. It is much easier to fall asleep with natural dopamine and melatonin (made from serotonin) in our bodies, than it is to fall asleep with stress hormones in our bodies.

The Best Sleep Apps to Download on Your Mobile Phone

Ever wondered which of the hundreds of sleep-related mobile phone apps are worth the hype? We’ve sampled some of the most talked-about sleep apps and can recommend five worth downloading for a better night’s sleep!

For Tracking Sleep: Sleep Cycle Alarm Clock

Sleep Cycle is widely regarded as the best app for tracking sleep. When you’re ready to sleep, open the app, set your desired wake-up time, and place your mobile phone on your mattress not too far from your pillow. If it’s your first time using the app, there are instructions you can walk through to test the optimal placement of your phone for tracking sleep.

While you sleep, the Sleep Cycle app utilizes the iPhone accelerometer to sense your movement throughout the night and determine which sleep state you’re in at a given time. It will wake you up with an alarm within the 30 minutes before your desired wake-up time at the point of lightest sleep – i.e. when you feel the most rested and ready to be awake again.

There are several graphs and stats you can use to monitor your sleeping habits, including when you moved from deep sleep to light sleep throughout the night, how long you spent in bed, and your sleep quality (how well you slept, based on your movements and duration of sleep). If you want to find out whether you’re a good sleeper, this app will point you in the right direction!

Best Sleep Apps: Sleep Cycle Alarm Clock Best Sleep Apps: Sleep Cycle Alarm Clock

For Napping: Sleep Cycle Power Nap

Brought to you by the same folks at Sleep Cycle, their new Sleep Cycle Power Nap app aims to wake you up from your nap before you fall into deep sleep. It uses the same technology as the Sleep Cycle Alarm Clock, detecting your movement to infer which sleep stage you’re in. You can choose from 3 different nap types: 20 minutes, 45 minutes, or one full sleep cycle – all of which will wake you up in a light sleep phase.

Note: If you’re downloading the Sleep Cycle Alarm Clock app, you might as well splurge on the Sleep Cycle bundle: 3 apps for $2.99 (Sleep Cycle, Sleep Cycle Power Nap, and Sleep Cycle heart rate).

For Falling Asleep: Sleep Pillow Sounds

A mega-popular phone app with thousands of rave reviews and featured by the likes of BBC and the Wall Street Journal, Sleep Pillow Sounds has been coined “the app that helps the world sleep”. With 70 different ambient sounds arranged in 300,000 different combinations, this app claims to create a very relaxed environment. You can experiment with the sounds and see what works for you – even create your own mix of sounds to help to lull you to sleep.

Sleep Pillow Sounds also comes with a sleep timer, which turns the sound off after a specified amount of time, and an alarm clock, helping you to both fall asleep and wake up.

Note: The free version of this app is very limited in both sounds and capabilities, so to get the best out of it we recommend you upgrade to the pro version for $1.99.

Best Sleep Apps: Sleep Pillow Best Sleep Apps: Sleep Pillow

For Waking Up: Alarm Clock Sleep Sounds Free

Don’t let the name fool you: this app also aids in guiding you to sleep with its meditation and brainwave sound recordings. Its main strength is in its alarm clock, though, with several different wake-up programs designed to ease you into wakefulness. Wouldn’t you rather wake up calmly to the sound of wind chimes, instead of being jolted awake by a generic blaring alarm? Thanks to the Alarm Clock Sleep Sounds Free app, now you can!

For Insomnia: Insomnia Cure

If you’re serious about kicking insomnia to the curb the natural way (i.e. without sleeping tablets), give the Insomnia Cure app a go. It’s only worth it if you’re willing to invest the time in learning and practicing better sleep through this insomnia treatment program, but if you are you’ll have lots of resources at your disposal within the app, including:

  • Relaxation sleep sessions (wave recordings to help you relax and fall asleep)
  • A 40 page ebook by Max Kirsten, renowned hypnotherapist
  • Sleep fact cards (tips for better sleep)

Best Sleep Apps: Insomnia Cure Best Sleep Apps: Insomnia Cure

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